Child Adjust to School
After being away from
school for a period of time, some children are fearful about
retuning to school for a variety of reasons. They may be
worried about having a new teacher, new classmates, or about
leaving the comfort of their home routines. Sometimes children
may cling to you and cry when they must go to school. This kind
of reaction is not uncommon for children. But there are some
things that you can do to help make sure that your child has a
good school year. Try some of the following suggestions to see
what works best for you and your family. Some of the
possibilities may not fit well with your routine but hopefully
other suggestions will work well for your family.
Make sure that your child gets
plenty of sleep (about 9 hours) each night.
At night, talk to your child in a
positive way about going to school the next day. If he/she
has fears or concerns, listen to your child and try to
validate what he/she is feeling. Instead of saying, “Oh,
there’s nothing to worry about”, try to listen to the concerns
and respond to them. “You seem worried when you think about
your teacher calling on you. You are afraid that you won’t
have the right answers. What happens when the teacher hears
someone give an answer that isn’t correct?”
Do as much as you can to prepare
children for the following morning. Let them know some of the
things that will be expected of them. You might say, “In the
morning, you have to get dressed, eat breakfast and brush your
teeth.” Having clear routines that the child must follow,
getting the backpack ready and laying clothes out the night
before can help the morning go much more smoothly.
Put a special note in your
child’s lunchbox or backpack about school or how much you
care. Tell your child that you are thinking of him/her. It
helps some children to know that you think about him/her
during the day.
Avoid long goodbyes. If your
child can, allow him/her to ride the bus. This creates
independence and will help your child feel grown up. Leaving
a child at the door of the classroom can be hard for both you
and your child.
At the end of the day, talk to
your child in a positive way about school. Compliment your
child on making it through the day. “I remember that last
night you were really worried about going to school. You made
it! What kinds of things did you do that helped you make it.
This helps the child focus on the positive parts of his/her
day and also helps him/her to feel successful.
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